Bust magazine Feb/Mar issue - on dating and weddings!
You, reading this right now. Go to your local book store and get the Feb./Mar. issue of Bust magazine. NOW! There two articles I want to highlight here. One is which debunks those pesky dating myths that keep everyone miserable in their relationships. The article cites studies that indicate that YES WOMEN CAN ASK MEN OUT ON A DATE! If it is backed up by science, will you all finally believe me? Another revelation - it is ok for a woman to pay for a date! This one is tricky ladies, because there will definitely be guys out there who want to pay for everything. I don't trust those guys personally. It makes me feel like I'm going to owe them something later. I've always felt that the person who did the asking or picked where you're going should pay. My other favorite myth from this article is that men don't like to date smart women. The article debunks some recently cited studies, and shows that men do in fact like smart women. So girls - It's ok to ask guys out, to pay for dates sometimes, and to be intelligent! Why, in the 21st century should I even feel the need to reiterate these points?!?The other article I absolutely adore from this issue is about the history of being a bridesmaid. I've decided that when I get married the wedding will be more than a touch on the non-traditional side, because I hate weddings. I hate them. Mine will have no bouquet toss, definitely no garter toss, no candle lighting ceremony, none of that. It'll have an open bar and a document to legalize what I already know. Oh yeah, and a cake shaped like a pirate ship.
This article from Bust points out that what we think of the traditional wedding in America was really an idea created in the 1800's, mostly by merchants and people wanting to show off their status. Weddings were not the big deal they are now before then. And all that wedding etiquette crap? Invented in the 1930's. Oh yeah, and De Beers invented the "custom" of the diamond engagement ring.
Why do I love this article so much? I've never been someone who respects doing something just because "That's the way it has ALWAYS been done". Now I hope you see that some of these things are definitely not the way things have always been done, and you can feel a little more freedom if you're planning a wedding. Make it about you and the person you love, not about what you think a wedding is supposed to be like.
posted by Mia @ 11:01 AM
1 Comments:
Yay! to nontraditional weddings. My engagement ring wasn't a diamond, my hubby and I both walked down the aisle (and we were each escorted by both our parents), we didn't do the candle lighting thing, and Ididn't toss the bouquet (I didn't even have a garter). Instead, we threw Mardi Gras beads--so much more fun!
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