Relevant ramblings from my loopy journal...
Yesterday afternoon I was reading a very interesting article on the "reasons" that infidelity destroys American marriages, yet doesn't seem to have as near a destructive impact in marriages in other nations. It was certainly written from the male perspective and uses the American concept of a marriage to condemn itself. Therefore he rendered his article completely illogical (you cannot use what you are trying to prove as proof because you have not proven it yet). It did, however, force me to reexamine my views on a few things (marriage, sex, the media, etc.) even if only in brief.
One example they gave was a man on a business trip to NY. He meets a local in a bar. She invites him home. He shows her his wedding ring, and she doesn't care. They have a night of crazy hot sex and life goes on. Aside from the disease factor, I find myself asking what is inherently evil about that? They had sex. In a typical middle-class American marriage, truth would tear the marraige apart. But I am asking myself, is sex the most important thing we provide to a spouse? Is there nothing more sacred in a marriage that can hold a bond between two people? It is fair that seeking sex outside a marriage is held as criminal when married people go elsewhere to have their emotional or psychological needs met all of the time?
Lately new articles have been popping up about the phenomenon of the "emotional affair." So now, not only can we not seek sexual fulfillment outside marriage, but we cannot have our emotional needs met their either? This is the psychological equivalent to putting all your eggs in one basket. Is it fair to your spouse that you must run to them to fulfill your every need?
...I could go on and on about this. Every new thought brings new questions about the nature of relationships, the influence of the media, and (now) the American myth of personal independence.
I'll stop...for now.
Labels: infidelity, marriage, relationships, sex
Multi-gasmic Sex
A recent magazine blurb has gotten me doing a bit of research on those old Kegel exercises. I found a great article
here on how it helps improve the sexual experience of both partners.
Ladies...this is really important after having a kiddo...and it's keeps you from having a myriad of urinary/pelvic problems in your later years.
In the original piece that grab my attention on the topic, the recommendation was 30 - 50 per day.
Labels: sex, sexual health
Falling in love in Rome, lights on or off, and being happy and single!
How do you express your love in Rome? By
hanging a padlock on an ancient bridge, and throwing the key into the river. I don't know what I love about this story more, the fact that it's a brand new trend on the most ancient bridge in the city, or the fact that it was spurred by two recent books. I love when reading a book makes people go out and *do* something.
A
blogger ponders the eternal question: Do you turn the lights off or keep them on during sex?
I think I agree with this blogger, I don't have a preference as long as it's not harsh, artificial fluorescent lighting. No one looks sexy under those lights!
This is a
really good article about being happy with being single. Have a friend who is complaining about not being in a relationship? Send them this link! I especially like the part about taking time while you're single to figure out where you've gone wrong in past relationships, and take care of some emotional baggage.
Labels: love, sex, single life
My doctor is an idiot
I know I've been AWOL as of late. I apologize and will be making efforts to be more active in the blog.
In searching Yahoo News for articles on sex, I came across
this study on the effects of oral contraceptives on sexuality and well-being.
As you may or may not know, this is something that has recently hit close to him.
I am going to print this baby off and sent it to my former OB/GYN...Labels: birth control, sex
Book Review- He Comes Next by Ian Kerner
I just finished (like literally 5 minutes ago) reading
He Comes Next: The Thinking Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man by Ian Kerner. I was skeptical, but it was actually pretty good. He has also written
She Comes First, and
Be Honest, You're Not That Into Him Either. The title might make you think its just a how-to guide for giving better blow jobs, but fear not! Its actually a really good overview of male sexuality. I will say I take any sort of gender generalizations with a grain of salt. Not all men have trouble expressing their emotions, not all women love to cuddle after sex. So when reading this book, I would keep your particular man in mind. The book is definitely geared towards those in long term relationships. It often deals with how to put the desire back into your love life after it has waned. It talks a lot about some of the brain chemistry that I mentioned in my
previous post, as well as building real intimacy. Depending on your relationship, you may feel like you've already progressed passed some of the topics mentioned, but I think it could be beneficial to anyone in a committed relationship.
Labels: book review, men, sex
Diaphragms, Office Relationships, and Eco-Friendly Sex!
The diaphragm might not be the most popular birth control, but it has potential to
help prevent aids in Africa.
Twenty-somethings are
more comfortable dating coworkers than their older counterparts.
Love the environment? Love sex?
How to Green Your Sex Life! There is a ton of information here! From eco-friendly sex toys to vegan condoms, everything you possibly ever wanted to know about environmentally friendly sex is here.
Labels: birth control, sex
